I had dinner the other night with a new friend, I've mentioned her before, she's been dealing with IF for seven years and is a midwife. I am in awe of her ability to deliver babies while not being able to have one of her own. She's a very nice person, very strong in her faith, and not shy about sharing her opinions. She very bluntly tells me that she is worried for my marriage. IF has made her marriage very hard, she and her husband don't even talk about IF anymore. They can't seem to decide on a treatment and because they are very devoutly Catholic, they are limited in what they can do.
C and I were raised Catholic, married in a Catholic Church and always wanted to raise our children Catholic as well. That is until IF came into our life and we read about the Church's stance on IVF, talk about a punch to the gut. But, honestly, I shouldn't have been surprised. The Church isn't exactly known for being progressive! I'm 80% sure we are leaving the Catholic Church. Only 80% because we have two godchildren and both of our families are Catholic. I can't imagine my ILs being very happy about us leaving the Church. Not that I care what they think!
[edited to protect the innocent!]
My faith is important to me and I maintain a relationship with God. I pray, give praise, and ask for blessings. I am confused about Jesus, sometimes I just have so many doubts and other times, I feel strongly Christian. I guess my status with Jesus would read: It's Complicated. But, I don't feel guilty about that, I'm human and all I can do is try. I don't think God thinks badly of me for that and I can't imagine God disapproving of C and I bringing a child into this life via IVF. It's a child, regardless of how he/she is created. And, don't most religions preach that life begins at conception? Tell me then, does IVF conception not apply to that same belief?